Friday, November 19, 2010

4 Reasons Why You Should Save Your Marriage

Reason 1
Children. According to an article in the Mercury News written in 2004 recent research suggests that children of divorce face many more hurdles. It is now believed that children do better in school, have less depression, less marital struggle and longer marriages when they grow up in a house with both biological parents.

Reason 2
You and your spouse probably do love each other. This is just a test and the truth of the matter is that if you have children those children put stress on your marriage.

Most people believe the myth that children bring couples together but in fact 70% of couples polled said that marital satisfaction dropped and didn't return until the kids went to college. Having children and raising a family can be very tough. Rather than give up on your marriage realize that it's just a temporary tough time until you get your kids raised.

Reason 3
Life is better when you're married and you'll outlive a lot of those single swingers. Interestingly enough, men have a lower life expectancy than women but married men have a longer life expectancy than single men. If you want to live longer, especially if you're a man, stay married. Also, when couples enter retirement actuarial studies have found that both spouses live longer than their single counterparts.

Reason 4
Starting over is tough - and expensive!. Throwing the baby out with the bath water is an unnecessary move. The road to an improved marriage is paved with bumps, side roads and occasional unmarked twists and turns. In the long run, having someone who knows you and is used to your idiosyncrasies is of more benefit than hindrance.

Too many people nowadays suffer from the Hollywood version of romance - the fairy tale. Well, that's the fairy tale!

The road to restoring any marriage is more communication and improved communication skills. Also needed is accepting that no person is perfect and that each brings their own issues to the relationship.

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